Aren’t we some funny creatures? I would even say that we are really weird sometimes. We always wish things that we can’t have at the given moment, we wish things that other have instead of enjoying the things we have.
It starts when we are little. Toys that our friends have, they are so much better then ours. Lunch at a friend’s house, also so much better then at home. Even if it is the same dish or even something we actually “don’t like” at home. Well there, it’s delicious.
Then we grow up. We want even more things that others have. A nice car that our neighbor have, a spacious house or flat that our classmate has and especially lately, all the perfect relationships and adventures our friends have on social media.
Then we grow up even more and we loose this envy for what others have, especially if we look from materials perspective. But social media really, really blurred our perspective and clear vision on what is reality and what is only staged for the camera when we talk relationships and having fun, enjoying life.
It’s like if you don’t have this perfect pictures, then you don’t have a good life. At all!
Now imagine me, I know this envy thing is bad and that social media pictures are lying… but currently I’m at home, 24/7, not moving from my couch much. I just had a knee surgery so I can’t move much and definitely I can’t go to the seaside or mountains. I need to rest and do some exercises.
Everyone else is currently on summer vacations. I’m very happy for them, but when I open social media and see all those nice photos and videos from the seaside and mountains, well it’s hard not to be at least a bit jealous. Not of them, but of me not being able to do the same or similar. Even though I wished for this surgery to happen as soon as possible and I knew that summer will be mostly lost for me this year. It’s sometimes still hard.
Be careful what you wish for, because you might just get it.
As mentioned in the beginning, we always want what we can’t have. So what I really want to do now would be going cycling, hiking into mountains, going to the seaside and swim, enjoy summer… what I can do is being on the couch, read books, watch tv series and movies, rest, surf the internet and it’s enough of the lazy things already for me. The funny thing? This is something I would love to do few months ago when I had a full schedule with work and sports. I guess the joke is on me hehe.
Actually is not that bad and especially with the progress I’m doing and the goal that I have set it’s all worth it. But it got me thinking and that is why I have written this. Because we are sometimes too blinded to see that all of what we have right now is the part of a bigger plan and that everything is like it should be. We need to enjoy what we have because it is enough.
Even though it’s a different dynamics for me now, it is something that I need to do. It is something I need to experience in order to be able to grow further and come out of this even stronger.
What is your experience with this kind of situations? Comment below to share your experience with me, would be really happy to hear your opinion.
This is what I try to live up to: “Happy is not the one who has a lot, but the one who needs little.”
It is hard and I haven’t internalize it tottaly yet, though I have it written on my mirror in Bathroom. But hope to get there.
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This post was an eye opener for me. I had to do things that made me happy instead of looking at things other people have.